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Is it Self-Care? Self-Comfort? or Self-Indulgence?

Self-care

It’s a buzz word of sorts today, but what is it?

Self-care is about recognizing the needs of your mind, body, and spirit and feeding those needs through physical, mental, and emotional health. Self-care is individual, as it is whatever takes you closer to your goals. For some, self-care might mean getting in their 64-ounces of water a day to ensure they don’t get a migraine. For others it might be finding a quiet place to be by themselves each day to simply hear their own thoughts for 10-15 minutes. Maybeeee…it’s as simple as eating slowly and truly tasting your food!

There are different areas of self-care, and it goes beyond physical:

Physical

Hello! Fitness! But also, getting enough sleep and recovery.

Emotional

How do you deal with stress? How do you show love to yourself?

Social

How do you form meaningful connections with those around you? How do you set appropriate boundaries in your relationships?

Intellectual

When do you make time to try new things or to challenge your brain? Human beings thrive off of novelty! It is important to engage your intellect in new and different ways.

Spiritual

What gives you a sense of purpose? How do you tap into your deepest motivation and gain satisfaction in your life?

Self-Care vs Self-Indulgence

Self-care needs to be separated from self-comfort and self-indulgence. Self-comfort might be choices that do NOT move you forward, or toward your goal, but do make you feel better in the moment…such as skipping your workout or to have “just one more” drink with your coworkers.

Self-indulgence would be going “all in” on self-comfort which often turns into a downward spiral. Instead of that comforting glass of wine, it turns into most or all of a bottle. Wake up groggy, skip morning workout, give into cravings and eat crappy breakfast of simple carbohydrates and regret the rest of your day.

Make sure to distinguish between self-care (good!) vs self-comfort (be careful) vs self-indulgent (destructive).

Ask yourself a few questions to determine if your choices are self-care or self-comfort/indulgent.

1) Does this choice move me closer to my goal/desired outcome?
2) What choices provide self-comfort but just aren’t worth it? Or which ones are?
3) Which choices are probably more self-indulgent and how can I reframe that to be self-care?

Let’s Recap

We’ve heard self-care with regards to scheduling a massage, your workout, etc, but let’s think out of the box for a moment.

Are you always time crunched?

1) Maybe spend the few extra dollars to order your groceries online and let a service like Shipt deliver your groceries or use your free Target/Amazon shipping options to save yourself that time running errands.
2) Are you a part of the “bargain basement” flight deals through Frontier and other airlines? Maybe self-care is literally hopping on a plane for a cheap weekend getaway! It doesn’t always have to be exotic, sometimes “anywhere but here” is just about letting go of your daily responsibilities for a couple days.
3) Or, if you have kids, maybe it’s time to set some family house rules and everyone share in their part of cleaning, organizing, laundry, etc. Did I hear chore chart? Quit doing everything yourself!

5-Minute Hacks that Can Change Your Life!

Let’s say you sleep 9 hours a night and work 8 hours a day – that doesn’t seem like you have much time left huh? Only 7 hours in fact, and for most of us we are taking kids to school or sports, cooking food, cleaning, etc to boot!

But let’s break this down into usable units…you have EIGHTY-FOUR 5-minute chunks left of your day. Right now we’re going to ask you to use only SIX of them to better your health and quality of life. Think you are up to the challenge?

1. Listen to Your Favorite Song

Music activates just about every area of that brain that has been mapped so far. If you are looking to calm down, a slow-tempo song that soothes you will help the most. Make sure it’s also in a calm environment where you can hear and focus on the music, maybe put some headphones on and dim the lights. Looking for a mid-day pick me up? Get in the car and crank up the volume on that up-tempo song that makes you want to sing your heart out!

2. Declutter One Small Area

Being organized helps save time in all areas of your life…not searching for those lost keys, documents…appointment reminders! Knowing things are organized also improves your mental focus and reduces stress.

Have 5 more minutes? Take a look at your calendar and organize a busy day. Planning ahead can make sure you don’t miss your child’s basketball game…or your favorite workout!

3. Call a Friend or Loved One

Social connection reduces the incidence of depression, high blood pressure, and all-cause mortality. The bad news? Social media and text messaging don’t count for as much.

Now we all have that person who we know will NEVER let us off the phone in 5 minutes, save that conversation until you are ready to settle in or maybe schedule a date to meet out for coffee. Call someone you know will understand that you have only 5 minutes and just want to connect for a moment. Watch your mood lift as you hang up the phone!

4. Go to Bed 5 Minutes Earlier

Not tired yet? Read, meditate, pray, or try some light yoga to bring your body into a peaceful state for sleep. Turn off the phone and TV! Getting 7-9 hours of sleep helps prevent heart disease, inflammation (i.e. during recovery from your workouts!), obesity, depression, and stress. Try setting your alarm to actually remind you that it’s time to go to bed!

5. FLOSS!

It is never too late! Your gums may bleed for a couple days but that will subside as your gums heal. Not flossing/cleaning the gunk out between your teeth will cause plaque build-up which can lead to tooth decay, gum disease, and can be a risk factor for heart disease, diabetes, and obesity. If that isn’t enough, flossing can drastically reduce bad breath…a win-win for everyone!

6. 5-Minute Workout

For starters, just making the decision to work out even for only 5-minutes will ignite the motivation for more! Start with 5-minutes, whether it be stretching, a quick jog, or holding a few planks. When it comes to exercise, something is always better than nothing.

Here is a simple 5-minute workout: Choose a higher intensity move, like speed squats, and run through it in Tabata format. 20 seconds work, 10 seconds rest, 8 rounds. 1-minute rest or cool down/stretch. BAM! 5-minute workout that will boost your energy, and make you feel accomplished.

Seriously everyone, I just read this entire article aloud. It took me THREE MINUTES!

So Here’s #7 – Read This Blog Post Every Day!

Until you know it by heart anyway, and you have fully integrated these 5-minute fixes into your life.