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The New-Agers were Right?? It’s All in Your Head?

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.

~ Henry Ford

Well not-so-new-age thinker Mr. Ford, it turns out, was more correct than he knew! We’ve gathered up several studies alongside our personal, experiential knowledge to draw a picture for you that truly puts YOU in the driver seat (pun definitely intended).

Mindset

“Mindset” is the established set of attitudes held by someone, whether it is either negative or positive. You cannot have a positive life with a negative mindset. Your mindset not only determines your entire outlook on life and how you handle situations, but it also carries heavy impact for your health and the type of people you attract in your life.

Do you have a positive or negative mindset? Want to know what you can do to change it?

• How Old is “Old”?

A 2003 study concluded that people who thought old age started at 60 or less actually had a higher risk of serious heart problems later in life! Avoid the negative self-talk, and surround yourself with positive people and environments.

• Do you THINK you exercise enough??

According to a 2017 Stanford study which looked at mortality rates of 61,000 people over 21 years, those that THOUGHT they did less exercise than their peers tended to have a shorter lifespan – even if they got plenty of exercise. Of course exercise is still very important, but it’s interesting to note that your perceptions of it and yourself may be just as important!

• Do you talk yourself into failing?

Negative self-talk can creep up easily and is often hard to notice. You might think, “I’m so bad at this” or “I shouldn’t have tried that.” But these thoughts turn into internalized feelings and can cement your conceptions of yourself; they can become reality. When you catch yourself doing this, stop and replace those negative messages with positive ones. For example, “I’m so bad at this” becomes “Once I get more practice, I’ll be way better at this.” Or “I shouldn’t have tried” becomes “That didn’t work out as planned — maybe next time I will try it differently.”

Why Work to Change My Mindset?

Did you know that a negative mentality literally brings harm to your body? When you think negatively, dread about the future, or otherwise distress about things outside of your control, signals from your brain are sent out and initiate the “fight-or-flight” stress response. When you enter this state, many of the body’s self-repair mechanisms don’t function properly, and the immune system is suppressed. This means you are predisposed to illness!

Your attitude largely determines your direction. More Positive Thinking = More Positive Outcome; Smile more, be optimistic, and remember you are in charge! Be thankful, let go of regrets, and be kind to yourself!

“Every day may not be good, but there is good in everyday”

Surround Yourself with the Right People

When you surround yourself with positive people, you’ll hear positive outlooks, positive stories and positive experiences. Their positive words will sink in and affect your own line of thinking, which then affects your words and similarly contributes back into to the group!

Eliminate negativity in your life; positive thinking offers compounding returns, so the more often you practice it, the greater benefits you’ll realize!

Busy-ness vs. Wellness: You’re working too hard!

You can’t stop what you are doing to smell the roses, plan a healthy dinner, cook, exercise, etc. You are “way too busy for that.” Who will get the kids where they need to be, pay bills, cut the grass, put away the laundry. No one else is going to do it. Right? Of course they are not going to do it. You are absolutely correct. There are two key elements, or secrets even, to getting others to do more work so you don’t have to do it all. No one will do any work to help you unless YOU ASK THEM to do it. Want to know the other secret to getting those around you to work harder? Shhh…don’t tell anyone…ready? YOU HAVE TO STOP DOING IT! If you always do it, why would anyone else EVER do it? They don’t care how much you gripe and moan so long as it gets done.
Chances are you are doing work that is not yours to do. You are probably running yourself ragged so that your kids can play video games or watch tv “until it’s time to go.” You are most likely getting everything ready for everything so all anyone else has to do is pick up their fork or their car keys. What is that doing to your nutrition, fitness, stress levels, marriage, and overall wellness?  What is it doing to those around you?  You’re not really helping anyone.
A good business owner knows that training your staff must happen on a regular basis. It increases productivity, morale, and personal satisfaction. A good fitness instructor/trainer knows that training your body must happen on a regular basis as well. Working particular groups of muscles while others rest, repair, and gain strength. Don’t these traits apply to all individuals no matter their line of work, birth order, or marital status?
If you didn’t know it before, you know it now. Practice it. Train others. Set that example. We are all required to teach and share what we learn. It will increase your productivity, morale, personal satisfaction, and wellness.

Apply as Needed

“It’s supposed to be hard! If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard… is what makes it great!” Tom Hanks ~ A League of Their Own.

Research shows that stress levels are at an all time high. The economy, health insurance, job security, and family life are challenged each day. Depending on your attitude, point of view, or fate it may well be challenged each waking moment. It can be invigorating, aggravating, and at times infuriating. Each of these emotions are powerful, energetic, and necessary. Life is difficult. Pressing the “easy button” would only take away from the greatness.

Take the rush from you receive from love, happiness, frustration, and anger. Channel it into your daily activities. Food is not your only source of fuel.
Harness your emotions into your exercise routine. Energize every jab, cross, and elbow in your kickboxing class or every swing of the kettlebell with the rage you keep inside. Give it an outlet. Focus. Dive into your projects at work with a vigor that only comes from sheer frustration. Love your family. Embrace your family and enjoy every precious moment you have them.
You are not a blank slate going through the motions of life. Channel it. Express it. Wear your heart on your sleeve, it is beautiful!